by Cynthia Wands

A footprint in the sand along Moonstone Beach near Cambria that I found last summer.
A year or so ago I lost something – and I keep looking for it.
When he was making his glass art pieces, Eric made me a small ruby red glass heart, embellished with a gold filigree. I loved it, and kept it in a small crystal dish on our bedside table. After he died, I would look for it, pick it up, watch it glimmer in the light, and then return it to the same crystal dish. And one day it was gone. I was stunned. I couldn’t remember the last time I’d seen it. I live alone, with occasional company, but no one knows of this particular object. I’ve looked everywhere for it.
It’s been over a year and I keep looking for this red heart. I’ve looked behind furniture and in drawers, on shelves, in a box of keepsake mementos, and on top of the refrigerator. It’s gone. But I keep looking.
A few years ago I lost a notebook I kept at home for a writing project – I used it for spontaneous scribbles I wanted to corral together for a new script. And it too, suddenly went missing. A small black notebook, something I used frequently, and it just vanished. I have no idea where it is. I’ve looked at all the usual suspects, the desk, the office, the bookshelves, also the top of the refrigerator. It’s still missing.
This spring I decided to investigate this idea of the Disappearing Objects Phenomenon (DOP) and the idea of “jottles”. This is the in-explicable vanishing and sometimes unexpected reappearance of items. There’s some humor in this subject: ghosts, cats with extraordinary powers, a glitch in the matrix. And there are some interesting stories. I especially love the idea of items that unaccountably just appear again. Rings, keys, a beloved plastic cup. They just show up right where they were lost.
The research on “jottles” led me to other authors and research I knew nothing about. So I did find something new in all of this.
There are groups online that pursue the attending ideas around these “in-explicable” disappearances: worm holes of time, multidimensional beings, vibrations of “fae energy” and parallel realities where the lost objects gather together in the matrix storage room.
There are also discussions about behavior with an absent minded focus given stress, medication, aging or that second glass of wine. I’m interested in all of that. But I’m still looking for that glass heart. And that black notebook.
And I especially do love those stories of things that are suddenly “found”. I’m reminded of the story of my mother’s ashes. When she died after a long battle with cancer, she left conflicting instructions on where she wanted her ashes scattered. It was decided that a small group of family would sprinkle her ashes in the Spokane River, which was roaring along with record levels from the recent snow melt. We mixed rose petals with her ashes, gathered by the river banks, and scattered them in the furious water. We watched the ashes and the rose petals disappear. It was a strange and powerful reminder of loss.
Years passed. When my grandmother died, my sister Susan and I went to her funeral in Upstate New York. My grandmother had a poignant service at the small countryside church, with a beautiful white coffin covered with roses. She was buried in a small private cemetery, surrounded by the graves of our grandfather and other relatives. I hadn’t been in that cemetery in many years and as we walked over to the open grave for our grandmother, we stopped and stared at a new graveside marker.
In loving memory. Joell Dolan Wands. 1933-1997. My mother’s name appeared.
I flashed back to the day we tossed my mothers ashes in that roiling water, and for a moment, I wondered if that really happened. Because my mother’s name was now on this marker in this private cemetery. For just a moment I hung between the reality that I knew and what I was seeing. Susan squeezed my hand, I think mostly so I wouldn’t yell something, and we stumbled along to the rest of the graveside service for my grandmother. We found out later that my grandmother was so furious that my mother wasn’t buried in the private family cemetery that she put together a graveside marker for my mother and had it installed there, because it was the right thing to do. She didn’t want to tell us about it, because, well, that’s the way my grandmother wanted it done. That is some fierce “fae energy” from my grandmother. And really, surprisingly, it was lovely to find my mother’s name again.
This assignment of looking for something, paying attention, trying to make sense of loss – is very much akin to my life journey right now. This morning I gathered a bowl of rose petals from the garden and was reminded of that day by the river, where we tossed my mother’s ashes into a furious river, accompanied by a scattering of rose petals.
And then I laughed when I remembered that day at the cemetery, and the “found” marker for my mother’s name. Joell Dolan Wands.

April rose petals, now ready for the next transformation.





















